I need to take a time-out and ask for everyone’s happy thoughts and prayers. My Ex-mother-in-law, my mom-away-from-mom, had a stroke yesterday morning and was bleeding into her brain. She went to the hospital with complaints of a splitting headache, chills, a fever, and nausea. I thought that would mean it was the “good” kind of stroke, but she spent the day unconscious according to texts from my Ex. They were planning on transferring her just before rush hour last night to another hospital with better quality care. Then they decided that she was too unstable and it would be better to try to relieve pressure on her brain and watch her overnight. The neurosurgeon thought she was possibly looking at a seven-hour surgery this morning, and then…who knows.
Mom II (another affectionate nickname I’ve given her over the years) is quite simply the sweetest woman you’ll ever meet. Even though I was the outsider who divorced her baby, her youngest son, she told me that I will always be her daughter and she always tells me she loves me. I see her and Doug every Sunday morning when they pick up the girls for church. They girls look forward to it so very much; it’s lovely to see how close they are with their grandma and papa.
As hard as it is to imagine not having that to look forward to, the Ex is getting married in three weeks. I can’t imagine how difficult for him and A. to know that his mom might not be at their wedding. What’s easier? The long goodbye I’m going through with my mom, or maybe losing your mom in the space of a day?
I’m sure Mom II will pull through. She might be sweet, but lord is she stubborn! If she can pull through by sheer will, you bet she will. And she will be so mad that she caused such a fuss. And that they’re making her “rest” in her hospital bed. And that she can’t run around full tilt (and then some) getting ready for the wedding.
Still, if you have some happy thoughts and prayers you could spare us, they would be very much, by me, appreciated.
September 28, 2010 at 7:46 am |
Done! Praying for you, too.
September 28, 2010 at 8:03 am |
nothing nothing nothing makes saying goodbye to a loved one easier or better. the short, the long, always filled with a sadness that is unspeakable. big hug to you kiddo.
September 28, 2010 at 8:18 am |
Definitely some prayers going up for you, Mom II, the Ex, A and the girls. Times like these are so tough and friends near and far are what help you get through.
Know that we are all thinking of you and the rest of the family. Sending big hugs your way.
September 28, 2010 at 9:19 am |
Katie, thinking of you and of your mother-in-law today. I hope she has a full recovery.
September 28, 2010 at 10:47 am |
Health. Wholeness and Completeness are the order of the day for Mom II. I hold her in consciousness and in my heart and know that health is not on a gift to us but it is mandated. And so it is. Peace be still.
How are you? Sending you and your girls much love!
September 28, 2010 at 12:03 pm |
other sister hugging you from the other side – you are circled with love and prayers our friend.
xo
Kath
September 28, 2010 at 4:18 pm |
Oh my. So sorry to hear this. I really admire how y’all have stayed close through everything. I’m sure it has to be hard on your ex when this is suppose to be a happy time for him.
Prayers and cyber-hugs going out!
September 28, 2010 at 5:50 pm |
Thank-you for the prayers and for posting this. She truly is the sweetest mom and woman in the world. She loves you very much, no matter what. Her greatest joy is taking the girls to Church every week. We are all thankful she has that time and bond with them.
Praying her stubborness holds strong. Already looking for nice headwear for the wedding.
September 28, 2010 at 8:17 pm |
My thoughts are with you & Mom II.